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Controlling Behavior

By: David Korn

Trying to control other people in our lives will result in a lot of frustration for both parties. Humans are built on the notion of freedom and free will. If we violate this from time to time, people will begin to dislike us. Only exceptions would be in staff authority or towards young children who need guidance.

Controlling behavior can be destructive in many of our relationships. People will begin to get annoyed and turned off by controlling behavior. Offering input and advice is a good thing to do. However, pressing it on someone can result in them pushing you away. Finding a balance between our wants and their needs is important.

If you have a controlling personality, it will be hard to adapt to new behaviors. You can still work on controlling less and letting people do as they wish. The idea is to make improvements slowly over time. It is understandable to control people if we feel they are in danger. But, in most cases, it is certainly ok to let them do as they want.

Instead of trying to control, learning to compromise can be helpful. Finding an agreement between both parties will make both happier. Understanding that others have the right to make their own decisions will help in minimizing controlling behavior. The old expression “Go with the flow” can apply to coping with a controlling personality.